“DUFF: You either know one, have one or are one!”

Duff stands for “Designated Ugly Fat Friend” . I don’t know about you but personally, i didn’t know of such a term till i watched “The Duff (movie)“. And it is immensely sad that at the end of the movie i realised that there is actually a duff in every group of friends.

If you’re not cognisant with the characteristics of a Duff, let me educate you (as i was educated, hehe!). A duff is anyone in a group of friends who:

1. Has friends who are “hotter” than they are. Yes!
2. Feels invisible when out with their friends because they “don’t put themselves out there”
3. Gets approached by guys who ask about their friends and their relationship status.
4. Has a lot of guy friends who are JUST Friends!
5. When introducing a guy you like to your friends, they end up asking you to hook them up or the guy ends up leaving you for your friends.

That’s just my Top 5; i’m sure there are more ways to know if you’re the duff.

Why I’m i talking about this?

Because i somewhat relate to everything that has to do with the DUFF. I once was the duff (in college) and went through all the above, but not for long! I realised that i wasn’t living the best of my life. I always felt like the universe and the entire human race owed me something that i couldn’t quite identify. Something was missing. When you’re the duff, you often go unnoticed: you opinion, your appearance, your everything.

So, how did i get out?

1. I realised that i was enough for me. I didn’t need a group of friends to feel like my college life was complete. So from my second year in college into the third year, i became a one man team. I spent most of my time alone getting to know myself further.
2. I focused my energy on the right things. I tackled the problem head-on! I didn’t resort to material things to boost my esteem. Instead i developed my character towards things i loved. For instance, Plus Fabulosity was born at this time when i put in my time and energy to develop our first website, business cards and social media accounts.
3. I put in effort to look good. Yes, trust me, it works! I shopped clothes that flattered my figure, put on make up, perfume, and carried fashionable and stylish bags. Your  impression on people matters.
4. I cut off friends who took advantage of my kindness. Instead, i consciously chose my friends; friends who liked me for me. It matters so much who you spend your time with. Your friends should be people who encourage you to be your best self.
5. Date only when the feelings are mutual. This is the only way to avoid heartache which comes with being taken advantage of by a guy who already tapped the good but only wanted to get to your friend.

At the end of the day?

Be You! Stay true to yourself. and listen to your gut, its your guide to life. Remember, confidence will take you from being the duff too being the queen bee! *And when you become the queen bee, don’t treat others as Duffs!*

Till next time, Stay chic!

Fran.

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