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Being an entertainment news journalist, I recently had a work event at the premiere of Zootopia – YAY!! This got me super excited for the cinemas bearing in mind that am a great fan of animations.

I was tired and ruffled after a long day at work and was looking forward to at least relaxing at the movies.

I went on my own and on entering the cinema, a girl I used to work with calls out to me to come and sit near her; near to her male colleague who I have never met before (mind you gold class seats are 2 by 2).

He was quite attractive but I was in my professional role at the event and besides I looked like crap so I didn’t think anything of it. After a while, I could feel the conversation get quite flirtatious and it made me feel a little uncomfortable but sometimes I get uncomfortable when guys flirt with me when I feel ugly so I went with it.

(The movie starts)

Then out of the blue he tells me if I worked at his office he would have a hard time concentrating because of my outfit – I was wearing a pencil skirt which was below knee length and a top that covered my collarbones! Not anything revealing. Then he said he can tell I have amazing boobs. He said it in a laughing manner so I gave him a funny look but kept talking.

Then he asked me what kind of lingerie I like! Now that got me disturbed & thinking. I then told him that this line of conversation is making me really uncomfortable and he laughed and told me casually stated that I’m stressing  too much; that he’s an open guy and he doesn’t follow rules and I should stop being so uptight. Okayyyy this guy is a professional…I gave him benefit of the doubt and the conversation returned to normal waters. He asked to hang out with him after the movie – I said No. He asked why and I told him that I don’t have to give him an answer.

He reached over and grabbed the sleeves of my top, I thought maybe something was on it but he tried to pull it down to “I want to see your cleavage”. I told him I couldn’t believe he just tried to do that, I told him that I understand he doesn’t follow rules but he needs to respect that not everyone is like him and he’s making me really uncomfortable.

He became pensive then put his hand on my hand and “accidentally” grazed my boob and said “I’m really sorry if I’ve made you uncomfortable”. He still insisted on placing his hand on my hand and when I moved it away, he wrapped his hands on the back of my neck and tried kissing me and when I leaned back as far as I could; he bedeviled to graze my boob area again!!! Then he said “your boobs feel amazing, you should let me have them more”.

At this point, I was so angry and stunned. This to me felt so much like sexual harassment coz indeed this was it. I wanted to slap him and get the hell out of there. I moved as far from him as possible in my seat and left immediately the movie finished screening.

What gives you the right to invade someone’s personal space? What gives you the right to insult me because I find your advances pathetic, sleazy and gross? I’m not uptight – you are disgusting pervert.

Guy I just met at a work function calls me a prude because I won’t talk about lingerie or let him touch my breasts.

To an extent I feel violated and mad at myself that I didn’t slap him and walk out when he tried to pull down my top.

I wished he worked with me so I could get him done for sexual harassment. I didn’t bother with the cops because they’d probably sympathize with me, pat me on the head and tell me to stay away from him. (based on other people’s experiences with how the Police handle various sexual assaults – in Kenya FYI)

Real-talk Pointer: Not having a ‘go at’ on sexual harassment /assault in Kenya & most countries is hard to prove unless you have hard evidence. Don’t Hide, Speak Out!

 

DISCLAIMER: The above story is not in any way fictional. This is a TRUE narrative that took place in real time and features actual & living persons. Due to public outcry, the lady in narration was given an Anonymous character to preserve & protect their personal identity.

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